Have You Thought Carefully About Divorce?
You’re facing one of the biggest decisions of your life: whether or not to get a divorce. Your marriage is in trouble, that’s for sure. But is there a path to happiness short of ending the marriage? Perhaps now, before going all the way, you should have an honest look at things in an attempt to bring lucidity to the moment.
- Do you still love your partner, but feel disconnected, frustrated with the level of intimacy, or otherwise stuck in neutral?
- Do you truly want a divorce, or are you using the threat as a stick to bludgeon your spouse so they will kowtow to your wishes? Do feverish quarrels lead to such rage and irritation that you opt for coercion in order to get control or to get your spouse to take you seriously?
- In contemplating divorce, what is your end game? Do you truly hope to enjoy a new life that is fundamentally independent of your former spouse, or are you hoping to spur your spouse to make changes after realizing the foolishness of their actions? Is this a dream that you will ultimately be pursued by your ex with promises of improvements?
- Is divorce really the best solution for your problems? Do you realize that you’re looking at unsettling your life in ways ranging from parenting to economics and lifestyle. Have you carefully thought about what divorce will actually mean, both in the short- and long-term?
- Have you carefully weighed the consequences of a divorce, and are you genuinely prepared to accept them? Can you handle the changes to your finances, lifestyle, and the impacts on your kids?
- Are you getting a divorce based on your spouse’s wishes or on your own? Are you clinging to the comfort of the known and avoiding fears of the unknown, or are you carefully weighing your options and looking for ways to improve the level of satisfaction in your life?
- Are you attributing marital dysfunction totally on your spouse, or are you sharing accountability for the issues? Have you made the efforts a healthy marriage deserves?
- Are you more focused on feelings of resentment and vindictiveness than you are on creating a happier existence for yourself and your family? If so, will that antagonism shade your ability to be poised and fair in a divorce proceeding? Is the idea of divorce changing you in ways that you like, or ways that you don’t?
- Are you responding to tensions from an emotional viewpoint, or have you been able to consider and weigh the situation with logic and reason?
- Will you be able to work with your former spouse to provide your children with healthy relationships with both parents by cooperating to create a positive parenting plan?
- Are you or your children unsafe in your marriage?
Getting it Right
When you’re ready, the dedicated Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman are dedicated to helping you get the divorce settlement that works for you. To discuss, schedule a confidential consultation in our Boca Raton office today.
Source:
jud12.flcourts.org/About/Divisions/Family/Pro-Se-Forms-Instructions/Parenting-Plans
