How to Recover After Divorce
If simply thinking about your divorce brings on spasms of despair, you’re not alone. There are many people who truly suffer through a divorce. But the pain doesn’t last forever; you will be okay. Here are some ideas that may help get you through it:
- Recognize that the force of what you’re experiencing won’t last forever. Your new life is ahead and, while it’s common to miss parts of the old life, you can and will keep moving forward.
- Don’t have any expectations for your ex. Clearly, something didn’t mesh when you were married, so there’s no reason to think they are going to change going forward.
- Give yourself a good spruce up. A trendy new hairstyle, teeth whitening, or a nice new outfit might be just the trick for a fresh start.
- Don’t take things personally. No matter the reasons for ending the marriage, you should just take the lessons you need from the experience and say good-bye. There’s no point in battering yourself and trying to figure out the ways in which you weren’t good enough. You just didn’t work as a couple. That’s it. Move on.
- Figure out who your true friends are and allow them to help. Some of your shared friends may be out of reach now, so accept that and learn to rely on yourself and the people you can trust to have your back.
- Develop a viewpoint acknowledging that even if you don’t know precisely what’s ahead for you, you are an accomplished individual who will figure it out.
- Embrace being alone. Romantic relationships may be something to explore down the road, but get comfortable with yourself first.
- Find a good therapist. Professional help can be just what you need to process your emotions.
- Think about getting a pet. If you feel lost and alone, it could be helpful to have something that relies on and adores you.
- Care for yourself. Make sure you’re eating and sleeping well and getting the exercise you need to be at your best.
- Try a new hobby or activity. It can help you by giving you something new to focus on, giving you new skills, and presenting you with new people.
- If you have children, prioritize their needs while also taking time to deal with your own stuff. Don’t make them responsible for you; just let them be kids and support them.
- Keep your dates away from the kids.
- Thrive. Instead of trying to figure out how to punish your ex, simply learn and grow and glow. Forgive. The pain is real. Let it go. For yourself.
Getting Through It
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