Should You Give Your Marriage Another Chance or Get Divorced?

If you are in an unhappy marriage, it can lead to thoughts of divorce. Maybe you’ve argued about issues endlessly, and never really resolved anything. Perhaps you’re tired of pointlessly rehashing the same old arguments again and again. The question becomes, then, should you give the marriage one more shot, or just walk away?

It’s Time for Real Reflection

It’s understandable that the frustration you’re experiencing by constantly revisiting the same, tired problems time and again has left you feeling ready to give up. Before doing anything drastic, though, it’s important that you assess the situation with a critical eye, and take the time to make the right decision that will bring the results you want.

1. If you are in danger, the answer is clear. If the issues you’re facing involve violence of any kind, you probably already know that second chances are not worth the risk.
2. If your problems are a running theme in your marriage, it’s different than if they are signs of a temporary crisis.
3. If the problem is truly fixable, meaning there is a universe in which both you and your spouse would pledge to take the steps necessary to make changes, saving the marriage is possible. If your problems are soft–difficulty communicating, recurring arguments, or feelings of disconnection–the fix may be different than if problems are hard–like addiction, abuse, or infidelity.
4. If you and your partner actually have–or even wish to gain– the skills, including listening, taking accountability, and so forth, maybe you can make your marriage work in a healthy and satisfying way.
5. If you and your partner are willing to get help from a professional, it may be worth trying.
6. If you are both willing to concede partial responsibility for the state of your marriage, rather than spending time blaming one another for what’s wrong, maybe it can work.
7. If you both are willing to put in the time, understanding that things will not magically get better overnight–if ever, and you’re both still willing to stay and give it your best, you have hope.
8. If you can identify steps that need to be taken, develop a plan, or at least a starting point to get your marriage moving in the right direction, and if you can picture both you and your spouse expending real efforts toward success, it could be worth a try.
9. You need to think about whether a divorce will get you the things you want in life, and whether making the effort to repair the marriage is better than the alternative of making the effort to start over on your own.
10. Think carefully about what will happen if you do file for divorce? What are the best things? What is the worst? On the other hand, what are the top and bottom outcomes if you stay married?

If Divorce is the Answer

If, after really contemplating your options, you settle on divorce as the solution to your situation, the experienced Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman are here to help. Schedule a confidential consultation in our Boca Raton office today.