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How to Respond When Kids Blame You for the Divorce
Divorce can be excruciating in many ways, and one of the worst feelings can be knowing that your children hold you accountable for the destruction of the family. What can you do if your kids think of you as the “bad guy” who basically shattered the life they’d always known? Kids are Complicated—and so… Read More »

I’ll Stand by You Through Sickness and in Health—Except…
For anyone who uttered the marriage vow promising to stick together through sickness and health, it may come as a surprise to you to learn that when it comes to serious illnesses, marriages are a whopping seven times more likely to disintegrate when women become sick than when their husbands do. Why are men… Read More »

Co-Parenting Effectively
Divorce is generally pretty challenging, but one thing you’re unwavering about is co-parent in a way that exhibits that your children are cherished and prized by each parent, despite the divorce. For some families that sounds like a staggering goal, but in fact, it can be done with some relatively modest modifications to behaviors… Read More »

Adapting Parenting Plans Over Time
For anyone who got a divorce some years ago when the kids were quite young, there was surely some sort of parenting plan devised to accommodate everyone at the time. But as the children get older, are you finding that the plan that was very appropriate for the toddlers falls short of today’s needs?… Read More »

Is Collaborative Divorce Right for You?
We’ve all heard stories of divorces that are chaotic and emotionally arduous experiences. On the other hand, plenty of couples part ways without that sort of bitterness and spectacle. If you think you’d prefer to be the latter group, a collaborative divorce may be just the ticket for a smooth divorce. What is a… Read More »

If You’re Married You Need to Be Concerned About Body Language
What is the key to any good relationship? Communication, right! That’s something you’ve been told for ages. But what does good communication look like? Is having a good vocabulary? Simply talking to one another over dinner? It turns out that lots of people send one message to their spouse, but their spouse hears something… Read More »

When Finances Lead to Divorce
If you are someone whose marriage is on the rocks due to financial issues, you’re not alone. Financial insecurity is becoming a problem in many families these days due to rising prices, job losses, and uncertainty about the future. All of this can lead to serious discord in a relationship, as couples agonize about… Read More »

Children of Divorce: How to Build Resilience
When parents decide that they want to divorce, some of the most difficult aspects of the split are related to the children. Beyond having to figure out custody, visitation, and child support issues, parents have another gigantic apprehension: how will the split impact the mental, emotional, and physical health of the children? Building Resilience … Read More »

When Women Earn More than Their Husbands
What are the factors that increase the risk of divorce? Studies repeatedly show that lower socioeconomic status, domestic violence, and marital infidelity are three of the biggest contributors. Diminishing levels of intimacy and empty nesting can play a huge part in marital dissatisfaction, as well. But it may come as a surprise to many… Read More »

Same-Sex Relationships Haunted by Domestic Violence
Just as many gay and lesbian families frequently enjoy satisfying and nurturing relationships, many heterosexual relationships are healthy and rewarding. On the other hand, between one-third and one-fourth of individuals in any kind of intimate relationship experience domestic violence (DV) at some point in their lives. Fundamentals of Domestic Violence Several facets of domestic… Read More »