The Basics Of Florida Divorce: The ABC’s
No two divorces are the same, that’s for sure. But there are some key principles and guidelines that should be considered in any split in order to achieve the best possible outcomes: we call them the ABC’s of Florida divorce.
A: Attorneys Come in all Stripes
Your first step in divorce should be finding an experienced divorce attorney (not your cousin’s former neighbor who handles parking tickets in Miami) who sees eye to eye with you on goals, strategies, and tone. This is someone with whom you’ll be sharing some pretty personal information, so you need to be able to trust them and give them the whole scoop when discussing issues of concern. A trusting relationship is particularly important if your attorney has to tell you some tough truths. A lawyer who is experienced and knowledgeable will understand the challenges of the moment, will work tirelessly toward your desired results, and will play it straight with you from beginning to end.
B: Behavior Matters
It may seem ridiculous, but your behavior during the course of the divorce will no doubt have an impact on how things work out for you. That is to say, if you decide to live a life of debauchery in public, your former spouse may not take kindly to it and could choose to make things more difficult for you. Likewise, belittling, shaming, or otherwise nullifying your ex could just feed the fires of revenge in a spouse who might otherwise choose to be relatively conciliatory during divorce proceedings. Please understand that any underhanded behavior, any chicanery, any dastardly tactics may result in retributive acts in kind. On the other hand, treating your former spouse with a little empathy and respect could mean you get the same when you need it most.
C: Casualties of Divorce
No divorce is without loss, and you, too, will be experiencing some. The question is, how much, and what will the specifics entail? You need to be open to the possibility that you may lose a few friends, and that sensational Thanksgiving dinner at your in-law’s place is a thing of the past. When it comes to material possessions, you’ll be forced to make some concessions too. If you really can’t bear to part with your big screen television, be prepared to say good-bye to the dirt bike. If you are attached to the time-share, maybe you’ll have to sacrifice a chunk of your retirement plan. Your attorney can help you to prioritize and can negotiate for the things most important to you. Even your children will be negotiated over as you and your ex figure out how to share little people as you create a new life. Having clear goals related to this difficult subject will help your attorney to ensure the best possible outcomes for you.
Regardless of your situation, your priorities, or your financial status, paying attention to the basis of Florida divorce can make the entire experience a lot easier to navigate. At the office of WiseLieberman, you can count on our experienced Boca Raton divorce attorneys to get you from here to there. Schedule a confidential consultation today.