Changing Your Mind About the Divorce
Ending your marriage was no easy decision, but ultimately you believed that a split was the best decision for everyone involved. You both hired attorneys and have been moving steadily toward a divorce ever since. But suddenly you’re having second thoughts. After all that time together as a couple, the thought of losing the physical and emotional relationship that’s been anchoring you for so long is a bit frightening. What now?
Weighing the Costs
You’ve both dumped plenty of time, money, and emotional capital into this divorce process, so baking out now seems like it could be a big mistake. Conversely, you likely invested a lot more time, money, and emotional capital into your marriage, right? Hitting the pause button while you address your confusion may not be the worst idea in the world. And remember, whatever decision you make, it is only as final as you both want it to be.
Questions
When you consider your future as a single, you have a lot of questions about what your life will look like. How will you deal with your new financial situation? In what ways will this impact your kids and your relationship with them? How will daily routines have to change? Where will you find new connections? What will become of friendships with other couples? Will turning your life upside down achieve your ultimate goal of delivering satisfaction and happiness in life? Or is it possible that you acted rashly when moving toward divorce? Are the problems in your marriage truly intractable? Or are there steps you could take that could ensure a healthy relationship with your spouse that could mean both of your needs are met?
Time to Talk it Over
This may be the time to have a heart-to-heart with your spouse about your doubts and feelings. Ideally, you can share your concerns honestly and weigh the benefits of staying together rather than divorcing. You’re certainly not the first person in the world to get cold feet when it comes to divorce, and hopefully your spouse will understand your feelings of uncertainty. It’s even possible they are in the same space and agree that pausing legal actions is best while you figure things out. On the other hand, they may well want to proceed with the divorce as planned. They could just as easily insist on moving forward even though it’s something you’re not sure about. Regardless, the discussion will probably bring some degree of clarity and help you determine next steps, whether that means filing a motion to dismiss and hiring a marriage counselor or continuing with the divorce as originally planned.
Getting it Right
The dedicated Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman want you to get it right and will support you as you struggle with the many issues associated with this decision. To discuss, schedule a confidential consultation in our office today.
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