Getting Over Your Divorce

If you’ve ever known anyone who is wallowing in divorce misery years after their marriage ended, you know you don’t want to be like that.  So how do some people make a smooth transition to their new life, while others seem to flounder for years and years?  Perhaps one factor relates to one’s ability to let go.

Let go… 

Of the Marriage 

Finalize the dang divorce.  Why draw things out?  You’ve gone through the misery of saying all the things that need to be said and even hired an attorney.  So get the papers stamped and out of the way!

Old Possessions That Remind You of Your Spouse

 Is your wedding dress still hanging in the closet?  Do you have your wedding band tucked away in a special place?  It’s time to say good-bye to the items and their tender memories. Sure, it’s okay to keep a few wedding pictures stashed for your kids to have sometime down the road if they want them, but you need to wash your hands of the stuff and the memories! For one thing, a lot of that stuff is worth serious bucks. For another, you can’t possibly start a new life if you have one foot locked in the past.  So march forward!

Those Nasty Resentments 

Are you still furious every time you think about your ex’s new love interest, who you found out about, by the way, on your anniversary?  That was a real bite! When you can’t sleep at night is it because you’re turning over that argument you had one Thanksgiving with your mother-in-law, thinking of the perfect response to her catty comments about your attire?  For heaven’s sake, give up on those old feelings! There are bigger fish to fry in your NEW life!

Complaints About How Unfair Life is

 You may feel like life stinks at the moment, but it’s not going to get any better if you stay mired in the misery. Hard things happen.  It’s not all glitter and rainbows.  But good stuff happens, too, if only you can tune into it.  So quit living life through your rear-view mirror.  Grab opportunities, try new things, expand your horizons.  Whether it’s a support group, the prioritization of your health, or a new club or hobby, do what makes you happy! No matter how you put it, the message is the same: move on!

The Old Ways 

So you’ve got a routine? A pattern of life? A certain way of doing things? How’s that working out? Have you ever thought about throwing out the old schedule and putting together a new and better one?  Now’s the time!

You Can Get There 

The experienced Boca Raton family attorneys at WiseLieberman understand how difficult divorce can be.  That’s why we hold your hand every step of the way if that’s what you need.  To discuss your situation, schedule a confidential consultation in our office today!