I Want a Divorce Because My Spouse Won’t Fight!
Are you exasperated with your spouse simply because you never argue? While to some that sounds absolutely ludicrous, you are keenly aware that the absence of fighting doesn’t necessarily signal a congruous relationship. Rather, that lack of conflict could mean something much more detrimental is under foot. So what is going on? There are multiple possibilities.
You’re Married to Someone Who is No Longer Engaged
People looking into your marriage believe it is humming along like a smooth-running machine. But the reality is that your spouse is just not emotionally available. Their disengagement has become the go-to reaction to anything and everything that occurs. Whether they simply can’t be bothered with what they see as the minutiae of your life together, or they are intentionally backing away, it is just not working for you.
Your Spouse is Afraid
From your spouse’s point of view, anything is better than an argument. They amiably concede every issue rather than take a stand against you. Although there are those who like the idea of always getting their way, for you, it’s a sign of a big problem. For some reason, your spouse is intimidated by you. That results in issues being swept under the rug rather than being worked through. Eventually, resentment builds on both sides–but with no chance of a resolution because your spouse is either unwilling or unable to confront problems.
You Share no Passion
What you share with your spouse resembles an amiable friendship more than a marriage, and that makes your spouse more of a roommate than a spouse or lover. You genuinely like one another and there is really nothing to argue about because you don’t really have major expectations of one another, making yours a marriage in name only.You’re Missing so Much!
You don’t fight, but there’s a lot more that’s not happening here, right? You’re not sharing your doubts, expectations, or ambitions. You’re not dreaming together. You’ve come to feel more annoyance, if not indifference–than frustration with the situation. And that’s got you worried because you know you both deserve better.
Healthy Conflict
It’s naive to think that any two married people can always agree on everything! But disagreement is natural, and can even be a symptom of a vigorous and trusting relationship. Some ideas to help couples traverse disagreements include:
- Sticking to the issue at hand, instead of using long past problems to bolster arguments;
- Attacking the issue, not the person;
- Valuing issues that are important to the one other;
- Being clear about what you want and need;
- Shunning no name-calling or yelling;
- Avoiding absolutes like you never or you always.
Your Advocate in Divorce
The experienced Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman are here to ensure that your divorce is as smooth as possible and that you get the settlement you need. To discuss, schedule a confidential consultation in our Boca Raton office today.
