Is Divorce Acceptable when Marriage has Lost its Juice?
What’s the key to a successful marriage? If you’ve never had the special sauce, or you once had it but it’s long gone, how do you know that it’s time to walk away? Some people have the notion that a horrendous event has to occur in order to justify considering a divorce—and there’s no question that certain hard and fast reasons to get out of a marriage, such as living in an abusive relationship, qualify. But divorce may be worth considering for other reasons, as well.
The Polite Relationship
The enchantment is long-gone, and instead of feeling butterflies whenever your spouse enters a room, you have the urge to yawn. It’s not that you have a rotten spouse. You both pull your own weight, you never argue, and… perhaps that’s the issue! You don’t fight. Everything between you is simply incredibly polite. You wouldn’t describe yourself as unhappy—and if your spouse thought you were contemplating a split, they would be utterly stunned. Shaken! After all, you don’t even fight!
You’re Feeling Guilty
You haven’t even done anything tangible yet, but you’re nonetheless dumbfounded with guilt. Thoughts about leaving your marriage are wholly contrary to your traditional upbringing. You’ve played by the rules and performed your assigned roles as required. You’ve dutifully lived up to all expectations, but you’re starting to feel an itch and you want to scratch it. So why not?
It Takes Courage
The thing is, as much as you feel like a block of cheese, you’re not dead. You deserve to be blissful—or anything else in the realm beyond just okay. Not just on cruise control. You deserve to be animated, to be inquisitive, to be astonished. Ask yourself: Where are you in life? Who are you? What have you done with your life? Is there something more out there you haven’t dared to imagine yet? Does the life you’ve fashioned for yourself equate with the visions you’ve fantasized for your life? If you can consider these kinds of questions and you have the courage to answer truthfully– and if the answers urge you to do more and be more, you may need to make some difficult decisions.
Reaching Up and Out
You’ve been singing the hymn of go along to get along for too long. Is now the time to buck up and admit that your marriage is not providing you with the pleasure or gratification that you deserve? You are deserving and accomplished, and, although there are some who won’t be pleased with your decision, shouldn’t you get to decide what’s best for you?
Getting it Right
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