Life After Divorce – What You Can Expect

No matter how you slice it, it’s a huge decision, and one that results in loss. In a divorce you lose more than just a partner: you part with a routine and a way of life. It’s emotionally draining, even if you’re the one who initiated it, and even if the split is amicable. Whether it feels agonizing or just slightly challenging today, you should know that tomorrow is another day. You can expect a slew of mixed emotions—anger, anxiety, guilt, hope, contentment and yes, happiness—and you will get through them all. Here are some things that may be ahead.

• You may feel isolated after being judged by others. Your couple-friends may be stymied by split, partly concerned about having to take sides, and semi-concerned that whatever wrecked your marriage might be contagious—making it dangerous to get too close.
• The loneliness won’t last. You’ll find new connections. It’ll become clear that there are other singles out there, many of whom are raising kids on their own, and many who’ve experienced splits like yours. Saying good-bye to your couple-friends won’t be nearly as painful when you’re able to embrace new people who can help the new you to thrive.
• You’ll find yourself feeling proud. You’ll learn new skills, manage new problems, and navigate new adventures. Who knew you were so capable?
• You’ll treasure solo time. While managing multiple responsibilities, you’ll learn that time alone is pretty nice. Sure, looking into it seemed terrifying, but, now that you’ve come through the worst of it, you’ve discovered that you like you, and being alone feels pretty nice.
• You’ll have some sad times. You’ll have some firsts that might sting: your first night sleeping alone, your first holiday away from the kids, and maybe even the first time you enter a restaurant and request a table for one.
• Before you know it you’ll be the reigning expert on divorce. Rather than being the recipient of tips on how to get through the tough times, it’ll be you that disperses the wisdom and advice. After all, you’ll have managed the shared parenting, the finances, the expedition into the world of dating, and you’ve come out alive and well. Sure, it took some time, but isn’t that true of anything worth having? Life’s not perfect, but, for the most part you’re happy, positive, and planning a future that looks good to you. It took some effort to get here, and there’s plenty more ahead. But you’re up for it. Divorce feels like just a glitch now, and it’s behind you.

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