Should You Consider Split Custody?
Multiple factors that must be weighed when determining custody and visitation expectations when parents divorce. While the courts see the benefits of shared custody agreements that allow for maximum time with each parent, it must be acknowledged that in some situations that’s just not practical. Some couples decide on one parent to hold primary custody, with extensive visitation rights allotted for the other. Other families have the kids alternate from house to house by the week, while still others shift the parents into and out of the family home weekly. One other, lesser known custody arrangement–called split custody– may be a possibility under certain circumstances.
Understanding Split Custody?
Split custody splits up the children, giving sole custody of one child to one parent, and another child to the other parent. It’s rare for a reason; there are myriad complications and potentially negative outcomes that may impact children with this scenario. After all, having a child feel like they are losing a parent is bad enough; losing a sibling could feel catastrophic! That’s why the best interests of the children are always the court’s primary concern. That being said, when might split custody be a good option?
- Sometimes one child has special physical or emotional needs that one parent is better equipped to handle, and the time commitment would make it wise to send the other children to live with the other parent.
- Occasionally siblings have destructive relationships that go well beyond sibling rivalry , putting emotional or physical safety at risk. Separating them (and providing counseling) may be a good idea.
- In certain circumstances one child would have better opportunities when living with a parent who resides near a particular charter school.
- When older children choose to live with different parents it may be worthwhile to allow it.
- In rare circumstances when co-parenting is impossible due to geography or highly antagonistic relationships between parents, a judge may find that split custody is a reasonable choice.
How to Succeed
Successful split arrangements require work, as do other custody agreements. Tips include:
- Making all decisions based on the children’s best interests;
- Being open and honest with all parties at an age-appropriate level;
- Devising a comprehensive and mutually understood parenting plan;
- Following the parenting plan outline as closely as possible;
- Using various forms of communications as needed;
- Treating all parties with dignity and respect;
- Keeping negative comments about the other household out of range of the kids;
- Creating consistent rules and expectations across households;
- Keeping the other parent apprised of the children’s schedules;
- Regularly reviewing and reassessing agreements and conditions;
- Listening to children and addressing their needs fairly and consistently.
Success is Yours
Working through custody arrangements can be an emotionally daunting task. The experienced and dedicated Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman always work toward a divorce agreement that suits you best. To discuss your concerns, schedule a confidential consultation in our Boca Raton office today.
