Your New Year’s Resolution: Get a Divorce
You stuck with your spouse through the holidays, and stuck is exactly how you felt. Every word, every gesture, every moment felt phony. You haven’t been happy for a long time, and, if you’re honest about it, you haven’t made much of an effort to create a happy home for your spouse, either. So even though there was never a big, horrible moment when a lightbulb went off and told you it was time to leave, you definitely know that your life could be better on the other side of this marriage.
5 Tips for Dropping the News Bomb
You probably feel like your footing is a bit shaky about now. You know you want out, but are not sure how to go about it. Mediators provide these tips:
- Be sure it’s what you really want and you’re not just acting out of frustration or boredom.
- Be prepared for a reaction that may be emotional.
- Choose the right time and place—when the kids aren’t around, and when there’s time to discuss it.
- Be kind but determined. Don’t get talked out of it if you’re sure it’s what you want.
- Think about how you’d feel if the tables were turned and you were being surprised with this news. Then act accordingly.
5 Next Steps
Once the decision has been made and you’re certain the divorce is going forward, the next steps are important:
- Find a good divorce attorney that understands your goals.
- Really deal with your feelings by spending some time with yourself.
- Behave with respect and dignity.
- Consider living arrangements for the coming weeks and months.
- Make a tentative outline of where you’d like to be a year from now and how you can get there.
5 Technical Matters
Once you’ve gotten used to the idea of the split, it’s time to prepare for the actual divorce. That could include:
- Assemble financial records;
- Settle in on new schedules, finances, or living arrangements;
- Figure out what you want to keep and what you’re willing to give up in the divorce;
- Discuss arrangements with the kids.
5 Components of the Easiest Divorces
If possible, work with your ex to move things along as quickly and smoothly as possible. That means:
- Having an uncontested, no-fault divorce;
- Developing a parenting plan that works for everyone;
- Working with a mediator if necessary;
- Treating your ex with respect;
- Supporting your kids as they adjust to the divorce.
Making it Work for You
The Boca Raton divorce attorneys at WiseLieberman are committed to helping you get the best possible outcomes from your divorce. Whether initiated by you or by your ex, your future is going to be very different. Let us help you get it right. Schedule a confidential consultation in our office today.