Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Raise Envy: When a Bigger Paycheck Means a Different Alimony Bill
Getting a promotion or landing a better job should feel like a win. But if you’re paying or receiving alimony in Florida, that same win can trigger a legal question neither side always sees coming: does this change your support order? The short answer is that it might, but not automatically, and not without… Read More »
Avoiding the Anger and Hatred in Divorce
Everyone knows that divorce is an incredibly stressful experience, and one that leaves many people wallowing in feelings of despair, resentment, and even hatred. But those emotions don’t have to rule your life. There are some things you can do to address them before they get out of control. Fear: Addressing your fears head-on… Read More »
How to Avoid Kids Taking Sides in Divorce
Divorce is tough enough without having to deal with your own kids hating you for it. Sure, if you’re the parent they’ve chosen as the good guy, it feels pretty great–even validating. Although you may not say it out loud, you’re glad that you’re the favorite, and you believe you’ve earned that spot handily…. Read More »
Gray Divorce on the Rise as a Result of Longevity
If you’ve been married for a while, maybe the doldrums have kicked in and you find yourself feeling somewhat disconnected from your spouse. Maybe you still love one another, but you feel that the excitement and passion that defined your early days together has fizzled. Even though you’ve had a satisfying marriage in many… Read More »
What Does Divorce Do to Kids?
One of the biggest concerns unhappy couples have as they contemplate divorce is whether it will damage their children. To be fair, we know that children who are exposed to unhappy parents, whether those parents are together or apart, can suffer ill effects. Here’s what research says about children of divorce and the potential… Read More »
Spousal Support Before, During, and After Divorce
One of the key factors impacting financial well-being while considering divorce is spousal support. Most people understand generally that the financial need of a lesser earning spouse is weighed against the higher earning spouse’s ability to pay. But there are still a lot of details around spousal support that remain a mystery for many… Read More »
Narcissistic Abuse in a Marriage
Do you find yourself wondering if you’re losing your mind sometimes? You’ve perceived events in one way, but your spouse tells you you’re way off. You may not have considered this possibility that you are married to a narcissist who is handling you in your daily life. It’s Intentional The thing about narcissistic abuse… Read More »
A Living Child Custody Plan
Any parent who has gone through a divorce knows just how difficult it can be to carve up parenting responsibilities and time sharing in a workable Parenting Plan. Nonetheless, it is an essential task, and one that looks different for every family. In Florida the courts aim for a 50:50 time split, although that… Read More »
Relations with Stepchildren Following Divorce
Everyone knows that divorce can be a convoluted road to travel. Consider a divorce that threatens to take cherished stepchildren out of one’s life! Because stepfamilies deal with the same challenges facing other families, the possibility of divorce is just as much a reality for them as for any other family. Navigating the fallout… Read More »
What Happens to Frozen Embryos in a Divorce?
A recent case in New York reveals the emotional and legal challenges couples face when dealing with a divorcing couple battling over stored embryos. 47-year-old woman viewed those embryos as her last chance to become a mother. Her spouse believed his religion dictated that they should be donated or destroyed. The resulting turmoil led… Read More »
